Elder wisdom, Gender Roles and LGBT

Hearing Salina Everson, David Katzeek, and Linda Belarde this afternoon in many ways drew my mind back to my childhood, attending potlatch’s with my family, eating Tlingit food, and sitting patiently as an Elder spoke. As I grew older, I became more restless when listening to Elders. Perhaps I thought that they had nothing worthwhile to say to me. Of course, many years later I recognize the value of their wisdom.

What struck me most, however, about today’s presentation was the generational gap, however furtive it may have been, that was revealed by Peter’s question about gender roles in Tlingit culture. The answers I heard stood in stark contrast to contemporary views on gender roles and LGTB rights. Ms. Everson noted how women, traditionally, were not permitted to speak until either all the men had finished speaking, or they spoke only in response to a male questioner. While Tlingit society was matrilineal, that is, following your mother’s line, it was patriarchal in that men dominated. Matrilineal relates to how we are recognized, or our identity as clan members, not how much power the women have. Our clan identity is passed on via our mothers, but men held the power. Ms. Everson acknowledged that times are changing. Mr. Katzeek made an affirmation counter to current views of transgender identity. There is so much to learn from our Elders, they add value to every young person’s life, but while affirming the rights of all persons, there may potentially be areas of disconnect between traditional and contemporary world views.

Wisdom from the Elders

What advice did you hear that resonated with you?

What implications might this have for you as a teacher?

When Linda talked about the students she knew that didn’t do well in school simply because they didn’t see how what they were learning related to them or why it was important. David also talked about this and how he did much better in school once he realized its usefulness and importance. This resonated with me because I see it so often in schools, when students don’t care about what they are learning they don’t do well. As often as I can I want to show students why the things they learn in school matter and how they can use the knowledge they are gaining. I also like the part where Linda talked about the kid who came up to her and realized that everything we learn in school is connected. I liked this part because it remained me of the times when I’ve seen students make similar connections, and how eager they are to share these realizations.

 

Reflecting today’s Elders

I’m very grateful for Angie allowing the three elders to share their lives and culture during class today. I have heard about the Tlingit people losing their language several times already, but I didn’t really sense the wound until Salina told us about the banning of the Tlingit language in person. Some may argue that missionaries had great intent on spreading the gospel to Alaskans, but I believe it wounded the people and the culture more than they helped. I am grateful how strong the culture is getting today and hoping it’s only going to get richer. Linda told the most recent history of the Tlingit history, which basically gave us a broader picture of history. It was sad to hear that the Tlingit culture and language classes weren’t offered for many years. I wouldn’t know how to cope with the loss of my own language and culture. I am also impressed with David’s knowledge and his ability to use stories as inspirations for our lives. It’s impressive how he went from the bottom of the class in high school to being the top student in college. Thankful they were willing to share before they pass on.

Another thing that was cool to hear was how Linda told us that the only thing we can control is what we hear and the words we say to another person. We can’t control who hears us or what they say to us.

Understand Control

The Elders that enlightened us with their stories today were overflowing with an abundance of knowledge and wisdom. Selina caused me to physically feel the importance that a specific language has for a culture. David emphasized the importance of instilling confidence in students, as we may be the only ones to do so. Both of these messages stuck out to me, but the nugget of gold that had the most impact came from Linda.

Linda described an image of a bisected circle that had an individual (myself) on one side and everyone else on the other. The image represents just how much control we, as a single unit, have. The only things that I am able to control are the words, messages, actions, and ideas that are on my side of the circle. I cannot decide what others are going to receive, nor what they are going to send back my way.

This idea is incredibly valuable, especially in education. I had the privilege last year of being a substitute teacher for a high school, behavioral special ed class, and this message of a person’s agency in integral in the students development in understanding how to maintain control. A large number of their behavioral problems arise from the student not feeling like they have any control and are being misunderstood. By showing and explaining the things that the student has power over, I have witnessed huge improvements in the behavior or many students. The picture is a great visual representation of this idea, and I plan to have it hanging in every one of my classes.

 

It is in us!

I was struck and inspired by the value and appreciation our guests had for us as teachers. They believe in our power to educate their descendants with intention and respect. When Selina told her story about her experience at Sheldon Jackson college, being forbidden to speak her native language, I thought that memory maybe would have jaded her view and trust of educators, but she was so thrilled to speak to us about the improvement she has seen with Tlingit language in the schools. She was so passionate in sharing her story with people who can make that difference for students in the future.

David talked about how everything we need and all our students need to be successful is within us. “It is in you” was really empowering to hear, and definitely something I will pass on to empower my students. In a similar vein, Linda’s coping mechanism focused on the teacher’s boundaries and agency. She took away some pressure by saying we can only control our response to what we are given in the classroom, we can’t control how other people act or react. In that way, it is within us to choose our responsible, yet respectful boundaries. Having completed my student teaching already for the program, I feel fairly burnt out and without direction. Their wisdom was a source of strength today. They convinced me that I really do have it within me to teach 6 hours a week, take 9 credits of graduate school, and plan for what’s next in the next 3 weeks. I wish I could have had their words with me during times of my student teaching this year, when I really questioned whether I was cut out for this extremely hard job I’ve signed up for. Now I will carry it with me as inspiration and pass it along to my students, so that they know everyday that they are unique, precious, and capable of VERY much.

Wisdom of our Elders, the reflection

First off, I just want to comment on how lucky I feel to listen to these Elders talk.  It doesn’t matter what subject they decide to talk about, I am completely engaged and absording everything they have to say.  I think that all three of them had great points to make.  The passion in David’s voice and body language is inspiring.  He makes me feel like I can do anything, which wasn’t something that was declared during my childhood. If only I had a pocket version of David to take around with me when I’m having a rough day.  But, with that being said, I am a huge supporter of everything he has to say about letting the child know they are capable and they are intelligent.  Making sure the student knows you have confidence in them helps them build confidence for themselves.

Linda had a couple things that stuck with me, one being the use of the circle drawing when I get stressed out.  I have been aware of this concept and thought process but to take the time to physically draw and visualize it brings a whole new aspect. It seems so simple, yet so powerful.  The amount of the time she has spent in a school is proof that she has many more tools in her tool belt.  Being able to hear the few she shared today is something I will be able to add to mine for my upcoming career.

Selina was able to share something that can’t be put into words.  It was the pure emotions that came from her brief overview that has stuck with me.  I am lucky enough to say, at this point in my life, I have never been told I can’t speak my native language.  I don’t even have anything to compare to what this might’ve felt like.  All I can say is: I heard and felt what she said and that I will do everything in my power to make sure none of my students feel that way.  And although Selina’s experience was mostly associated with her native language, it is important to me that none of my students have that feeling that younger school-aged Selina felt when she was told her native language was forbidden to use.

Another great day!

Wow! All three speakers were wonderful, thoughtful, moving; there was so much to be inspired by.
I really liked Linda Belande’s vision of a circle: I can control half of the circle- how I take things in and how I respond, but the other half of the circle is beyond my control.
I think this is excellent advice that I hope to carry as I go through hard situations and deal with challenging students. As a teacher I hope to model to my students that conflict can be dealt with positively and peacefully- and that every person is in control of, and responsible for, their actions.
MJ

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